R is a well known gentleman and well-like by many friends. I like to talk to R as he is matured in thinking. I like to share life experiences with matured individual as I believe this is a way to improve. I always bound off ideas with R. This time we talked about his relationship.
R is in his new job for about 6 months now. The new job requires him to fly very often. I fly once a month to SH for about 2-3 weeks. He flies too but with a different pattern. He flies almost every week to every corner in the world, normally for less than a week. I don't like my schedule as it's hard for me to maintain a relationship. This is bad as I will never complete my life formula. This means I will not be happy.
R theoretically is in a long distant relationship now. He hardly gets to see his bf with his flying schedule. He is a bit worried now but still enjoying the flying routine. Actually, he has a not so smooth sailing relationship too. Can't really remember R has been attached for how long, but I remember R has been insecure since a year ago. R has many reasons to be insecure. His bf is 12 years his junior. His bf is still playful. His bf has ever said to him that he might not be committed. Worst of the lot, his bf has committed a common mistake just like any gay's bf will commit in a relationship - betrayal.
I always think that R has an eccentric relationship, at least eccentric in my own definition for a happy relationship. Almost all the relationship requires communication as a key function I think. R doesn't require communication in his own relationship. He knows that there is no communication between his bf and him due to differences in age and background, but R is still very enjoying the feeling staying with his bf. He doesn't require communication to stay with someone he loves. He can be contented with someone he loves merely staying by his side without conversation. He just feels happy doing his things with someone he loves besides him doing his own thing. This mere happy feeling completes his love equation.
R is still happy with his bf besides him but he feels insecure after his bf betrayed him. I think he wants to end the relationship as open relationship is not a function in his life equation. When he got the new job that required flying frequently, he was not upset , contrarily, he had an idea. He decided to put his relationship to a test.
They have been staying together for a good few years after attached not long. His bf has been wanting to move out quoting a few different reasons for a while. R has been trying to convince his bf to stay, but this times he asks his bf to move out voluntarily. He allows his bf to move out as he thinks that his bf will not be committed with him traveling so frequently. If his bf betrays again, then the test will fail and R will have a good reason to break off with his bf. This is also the best way to separate as they can be drifted apart slowly by not staying together. The feeling will be easier to manage comparing to immediate breaking off with someone. If his bf passes the test, he will gain confidence with his bf and they can be happily together. If his bf fails the test, they will break off with a good reason and less misery. R is serious about putting his relationship to the test now as they have already agreed on a date for his bf to move out.
"huh!! You called this a test??", I shouted back to R this time round just as he shouted at me earlier on when discussing my very type. I also give a summary to him this time round just like what he did on me merely a few minutes a go.
- This is a self-fish way of breaking off with someone you love
- You want a break off because you are insecure
- You can't break off because you still love your bf and can't bear the pain
- You need a way to break off with a good reason and less pain
- But, the good reason requires your bf to betray you and makes your love one the bad guy
- This is not a test, but a self-fish way to break off
I stared hard at R with eye wide this time, but still can't compare with him staring at me earlier on as my eye is not as big as his.
R is in his new job for about 6 months now. The new job requires him to fly very often. I fly once a month to SH for about 2-3 weeks. He flies too but with a different pattern. He flies almost every week to every corner in the world, normally for less than a week. I don't like my schedule as it's hard for me to maintain a relationship. This is bad as I will never complete my life formula. This means I will not be happy.
R theoretically is in a long distant relationship now. He hardly gets to see his bf with his flying schedule. He is a bit worried now but still enjoying the flying routine. Actually, he has a not so smooth sailing relationship too. Can't really remember R has been attached for how long, but I remember R has been insecure since a year ago. R has many reasons to be insecure. His bf is 12 years his junior. His bf is still playful. His bf has ever said to him that he might not be committed. Worst of the lot, his bf has committed a common mistake just like any gay's bf will commit in a relationship - betrayal.
I always think that R has an eccentric relationship, at least eccentric in my own definition for a happy relationship. Almost all the relationship requires communication as a key function I think. R doesn't require communication in his own relationship. He knows that there is no communication between his bf and him due to differences in age and background, but R is still very enjoying the feeling staying with his bf. He doesn't require communication to stay with someone he loves. He can be contented with someone he loves merely staying by his side without conversation. He just feels happy doing his things with someone he loves besides him doing his own thing. This mere happy feeling completes his love equation.
R is still happy with his bf besides him but he feels insecure after his bf betrayed him. I think he wants to end the relationship as open relationship is not a function in his life equation. When he got the new job that required flying frequently, he was not upset , contrarily, he had an idea. He decided to put his relationship to a test.
They have been staying together for a good few years after attached not long. His bf has been wanting to move out quoting a few different reasons for a while. R has been trying to convince his bf to stay, but this times he asks his bf to move out voluntarily. He allows his bf to move out as he thinks that his bf will not be committed with him traveling so frequently. If his bf betrays again, then the test will fail and R will have a good reason to break off with his bf. This is also the best way to separate as they can be drifted apart slowly by not staying together. The feeling will be easier to manage comparing to immediate breaking off with someone. If his bf passes the test, he will gain confidence with his bf and they can be happily together. If his bf fails the test, they will break off with a good reason and less misery. R is serious about putting his relationship to the test now as they have already agreed on a date for his bf to move out.
"huh!! You called this a test??", I shouted back to R this time round just as he shouted at me earlier on when discussing my very type. I also give a summary to him this time round just like what he did on me merely a few minutes a go.
- This is a self-fish way of breaking off with someone you love
- You want a break off because you are insecure
- You can't break off because you still love your bf and can't bear the pain
- You need a way to break off with a good reason and less pain
- But, the good reason requires your bf to betray you and makes your love one the bad guy
- This is not a test, but a self-fish way to break off
I stared hard at R with eye wide this time, but still can't compare with him staring at me earlier on as my eye is not as big as his.
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