K had a huge collection of MP3 from a friend's aunt. I had been eying the collection for long and told him repeatedly I would go over his house to duplicate them. K complained about TS alienating him for quite a while. Taking the opportunity, I invited TS to join us for dinner on the day I arranged to go K's house to duplicate the MP3. I hoped both could make up with this dinner.
We met in a coffee shop near K's house for dinner. While I was talking to TS, K appeared with another friend A. We dined and joked during the dinner, then proceeded to K's house after the dinner. I was eager to lay my hand on the MP3 as I had been longed for the collection. Bringing out my mobile hard disk, I headed directly to the machine. K sat in the same room with TS chatting and A went to the other room for reading. As the collection was arranged in i-tune format that we were not familiar. We first exchanged the method of duplicating the MP3 to my mobile hard disk. I could sense that K was a bit worry about I might mess out his collection and didn't want me to do anything to alter his configuration. I had no choice but only to do the tedious way of duplication.
While I was thinking and trying to figure out the most efficient way of copying, K suddenly told me that A wanted to use the computer and asked me to give way to A. I was puzzled and told him that I thought I made this arrangement long before to copy the MP3. He answered back quite rudely and sarcastically saying that A needed the computer for his work urgently and it's more important for A to use the computer. I could not be happy but I kept my silence and tried to figure out a method to copy what I wanted in the shortest time. It was not an easy task as there was about 60G of data to filter and duplicate. K wasn't happy too I guessed, he pushed me again with his impatient voice to give way to A after about 5 mins. I was agitated but I couldn't do anything as I was only a guest in his house and I wasn't the owner of the computer. I told him I needed another 15 mins to at least round off what I had been doing. While I was trying to tidy up fast what I had been doing, the cynical voice of K again hovering through demanding me to just leave my hard disk there for copying and quickly gave the machine to A. I immediately terminated what I had been doing and packed up my hard disk. I went to the next room and informed A that he could have the computer now. A was a bit surprised and told me not to worry and proceed to use the computer if I wanted. I told him that I should give way to his urgent work. A replied that it was not work and nothing urgent. He just wanted to read his personal emails. I was a bit shocked with the truth, but I still kept my silence. I left the house after A took over the computer.
I had known K for more than 10 years. It was just him that would do such thing. This was not the first time K took our friendship for granted, but this was definitely the last straw that I could take. Normally if a friendship turns sour like this, I will just let it be and keep silence. Besides WL, I hardly will tell anyone the detail. I just see no point heralding a failed friendship. And there is always a possibility of "hurting someone" by doing that. So I would try to avoid the topic of K when someone asked about him. Actually, TS called me not long after I left K's place. TS was the only witness of the whole saga. He called trying to see if I was angry and upset. As my usual self, I didn't want to talk about it. I just tried to deviate from the topic and ended our conversation. I don't even mention anything to TS till now even though we are very close friend. With the same principle, I avoided the topic of K with quite a few mutual friends till now. I normally just like to let the person disappear from my life if the relationship doesn't work out. I don't like to lead a quarrelsome life.
However I avoided the topic, related query still find its way to me. J asked me two days ago what happened between K and me. As my usual self, I didn't want to reveal anything. He told me that he heard from a friend about my fall off with K. K told the friend that "I touched his computer and he asked me not to, then I got angry with him pettily".
Wow.... I was speechless. I can never understand why someone can take a friend of more than ten years for granted till such an extend.
This again is a solid validation of my moto!!
We met in a coffee shop near K's house for dinner. While I was talking to TS, K appeared with another friend A. We dined and joked during the dinner, then proceeded to K's house after the dinner. I was eager to lay my hand on the MP3 as I had been longed for the collection. Bringing out my mobile hard disk, I headed directly to the machine. K sat in the same room with TS chatting and A went to the other room for reading. As the collection was arranged in i-tune format that we were not familiar. We first exchanged the method of duplicating the MP3 to my mobile hard disk. I could sense that K was a bit worry about I might mess out his collection and didn't want me to do anything to alter his configuration. I had no choice but only to do the tedious way of duplication.
While I was thinking and trying to figure out the most efficient way of copying, K suddenly told me that A wanted to use the computer and asked me to give way to A. I was puzzled and told him that I thought I made this arrangement long before to copy the MP3. He answered back quite rudely and sarcastically saying that A needed the computer for his work urgently and it's more important for A to use the computer. I could not be happy but I kept my silence and tried to figure out a method to copy what I wanted in the shortest time. It was not an easy task as there was about 60G of data to filter and duplicate. K wasn't happy too I guessed, he pushed me again with his impatient voice to give way to A after about 5 mins. I was agitated but I couldn't do anything as I was only a guest in his house and I wasn't the owner of the computer. I told him I needed another 15 mins to at least round off what I had been doing. While I was trying to tidy up fast what I had been doing, the cynical voice of K again hovering through demanding me to just leave my hard disk there for copying and quickly gave the machine to A. I immediately terminated what I had been doing and packed up my hard disk. I went to the next room and informed A that he could have the computer now. A was a bit surprised and told me not to worry and proceed to use the computer if I wanted. I told him that I should give way to his urgent work. A replied that it was not work and nothing urgent. He just wanted to read his personal emails. I was a bit shocked with the truth, but I still kept my silence. I left the house after A took over the computer.
I had known K for more than 10 years. It was just him that would do such thing. This was not the first time K took our friendship for granted, but this was definitely the last straw that I could take. Normally if a friendship turns sour like this, I will just let it be and keep silence. Besides WL, I hardly will tell anyone the detail. I just see no point heralding a failed friendship. And there is always a possibility of "hurting someone" by doing that. So I would try to avoid the topic of K when someone asked about him. Actually, TS called me not long after I left K's place. TS was the only witness of the whole saga. He called trying to see if I was angry and upset. As my usual self, I didn't want to talk about it. I just tried to deviate from the topic and ended our conversation. I don't even mention anything to TS till now even though we are very close friend. With the same principle, I avoided the topic of K with quite a few mutual friends till now. I normally just like to let the person disappear from my life if the relationship doesn't work out. I don't like to lead a quarrelsome life.
However I avoided the topic, related query still find its way to me. J asked me two days ago what happened between K and me. As my usual self, I didn't want to reveal anything. He told me that he heard from a friend about my fall off with K. K told the friend that "I touched his computer and he asked me not to, then I got angry with him pettily".
Wow.... I was speechless. I can never understand why someone can take a friend of more than ten years for granted till such an extend.
This again is a solid validation of my moto!!
