M suggested to watch a Korean movie "Frozen Flower" on my 2nd day in BKK. Oops, I have to use film as M considers himself a British now and British says film.
I don't like the movie actually. To be exact, I don't like the plot of the movie. I guess the main reason is that I quite like the first part of the movie but the second part is too out of my taste. The story developed in the first part matches my idea of love and relationship, however, I don't agree to dramatize the king's madness to the extent of so bloody a outcome even after the king is betrayed by his love due to his selfish motive of protecting his own interest. I felt quite heavy after the movie. M did't like the movie either as he felt the movie portrayed gay love negatively. We both agree that love shouldn't be so bloody. Everyone has to learn how to let go at certain point of time. I told M that the outcome of the movie might still be rationale due to the power of the king. A king has too mighty a power. If a person with so mighty a power can't manage himself when he is confronted with situation, disaster can happen. Unlike a common person like us, it is easier for us to let go when we are confronted with situation as that may be the only choice.
We later talked about our idea of love when we had dinner at Greyhound restaurant in Paragon. M said that he only cares about whether he loves a person rather than if the person loves him. This is because he can't handle the situation when he will to find out the person actually doesn't love him as he always think so. Therefore, he can survive in a relationship when he loves the person but the person may not love him. We talked about his relationship with Clive. We have a discussion on whether there is love for Clive. He thinks that he doesn't love Clive as he has decided not to be in a relationship with him. He equated love with relationship and he thought maybe he only loved himself the most. I told him love doesn't necessary result in a relationship. I feel that he still loves Clive but he now realises that Clive is not the person to be with in a relationship.
We talked about my ex. He later realised that he doesn't even know the reason of our parting. I told him I don't believe in heralding the story of a failed love. I don't see a need to go around talking bad about the person I once loved. And this applies to friendship as well. I don't normally explain to others when my friendship with someone turns sour. Many friends have voiced their view of staying as a friend after a failed relationship. I also don't agree with this rationale. I don't understand how one, who can't treasure the love when in a relationship, can treasure the friendship later. I always think life shound't be so quarrelsome, two persons should choose to be together to complement and grow rather than destroying each other when in a relationship. If that can't be done, then life should proceed better without the other party in his life.
